What you should and shouldn't do when someone insults you.
There is a story about Gautama Buddha. You may have heard the story.
A man used to insult Gautama Buddha almost every day with various harsh words. But Gautama Buddha was never embarrassed by that person's words. Even after insulting him so much, he did not reply back. One day Gautama Buddha was asked why he did not say anything to the man in response to his insults. He simply replied, If someone gives you a gift and you refuse to take it, who will the gift be?
What does insult actually mean? To insult someone is to speak disrespectfully or treat them badly.
In general, insults can be of two types.
1. killing someone in front of everyone.
2. verbal abuse.
Now the question is, what is verbal abuse? Insulting someone directly or through words is called verbal abuse. For example, commenting on someone's physical or habitual behavior, imitating someone's words or gestures, etc.
In the course of life you can never please everyone at the same time. This is normal. Some people will like you and some people will dislike you.
And the person who dislikes you can be your relatives, friends or someone at work. They are the ones who try to insult you in various ways to belittle you.
And if someone is insulting to hurt and not just for fun, then the situation becomes really painful and embarrassing.
But what do you do if you are insulted like this?
Will you insult him in return? Or sit upset? Or just walk away and ignore him?
If you know what to do when someone insults you, you can handle such social situations well. Assessing the situation, reacting appropriately and seeking help from others when necessary will help you overcome the fear of being humiliated.
Cause to be insulted
When someone tries to insult you, the first question that comes to mind is why is he trying to insult you? In this case, there can be 4 reasons-
1. Insecurity
People who try to belittle others with various harsh words usually have a negative mindset. There are many people who are always insecure about themselves. They cannot think of anything good about themselves. So they try to please themselves by belittling others.
Let's give an example in this case. Suppose your sister is always worried about whether she looks good or what everyone thinks of her.
So he tries to belittle you by commenting on your looks or how you dress or how your marks are in school etc. But actually he does it to satisfy himself.
2. Jealousy
The 2nd reason for insulting someone is jealousy. People who are jealous of you make fun of you or insult you. Jealousy is a very important reason behind insulting someone.
Jealous people feel they are not getting enough credit for their work. So they always try to insult those who have more credit than them.
For example, your office boss likes you more than your colleagues. As a result, your colleagues may become jealous of you.
As a result, he may make negative comments about your dress or work or even the presentation you make to belittle you.
3. not understand
Understanding a person's disability is not easy for everyone. As a result, many times the abuser unwittingly comments on the person's disability. So he doesn't realize how his comments are affecting the person.
Suppose a boy in school has trouble speaking or he suffers from stuttering problem. And his classmates are making fun of him without understanding the problem.
But if they realized the boy really had trouble speaking, they wouldn't make fun of the boy anymore.
4. have fun
The last reason could be that others make fun of you because they like you. That means there are some people who really like you and think you can make fun of anything.
For example, your cousin always calls you fat because you are healthy. In this case, his intention is not to hurt you. Even if you feel bad for his comments, his intention is just to make fun.
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